tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post3718966918292486717..comments2023-11-01T03:48:37.261-04:00Comments on From Tracie: These Definitions No Longer Fit MeTracie Nallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07908908021649000930noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-25034345737610479682015-04-11T19:50:36.262-04:002015-04-11T19:50:36.262-04:00This really resonated with me, Tracie. I've be...This really resonated with me, Tracie. I've been going through many changes, mostly shifts in my attitude and perceptions. Little shifts, most of them, like your capri pants decision, but needed shifts. Some of them have been painful, whether merely a twinge or like a sharp sting. But so needed.<br /><br />I don't know anyone who hates change more than I do. Like you, I define something about myself and then hold on to it and write about it over and over and over. But doing so makes it true only in a surface way. Who I am isn't really defined by even my own conclusions about who I am, because I don't have all the information I need to be informed enough for my conclusions to be 100 percent accurate. Who I am--who I truly am--emerges in bits and starts and sometimes I barely catch sight of my authenticity. But it's there, and it's held back, its emergence delayed, by my efforts to cling to the safety of the little I've seen of myself.<br /><br />The biggest revelation I've had this year is that I am much more broken than I ever suspected, for I've spent a lifetime hiding my brokenness not just from everyone around me, but from myself most of all.<br /><br />Wonder Years is one of those shows that nearly always causes me to have some kind of an epiphany about my own childhood. I can only watch it now and again because of this, but I do so love it.Beautifuldreamerhttp://bdreamer.squarespace.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-8634438426319851252015-04-02T18:08:48.276-04:002015-04-02T18:08:48.276-04:00I should get my sons to watch the Wonder Years - I...I should get my sons to watch the Wonder Years - I loved that show.<br />I used to let other people define me pretty much over and over again! I guess, learning not to give a rat's ass about it came in my 30s!!Roshnihttp://www.indianamericanmom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-85038412684405363042015-03-25T13:28:43.738-04:002015-03-25T13:28:43.738-04:00I feel like I can look back over my life and see a...I feel like I can look back over my life and see all the changes, little and big. The definitions are a bit harder for me, I never felt like I fit in to any particular slot, and so I see myself more as the one always trying to find her definition. <br />Maybe that's still me, but I think not. The changes of these last few years have helped me to define who I want to be. <br /><br />I agree with others, you definitely have my mind in circles today, in the very best of ways. I almost want to write a post expanding on this idea...<br /><br />As for the capris, I happen to be a fan because I don't like my thighs, and so shorts aren't my thing. But I'm more about maxi skirts than capris :)TiaMariahttp://www.becominneurotic.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-7829497983405968372015-03-20T16:44:07.221-04:002015-03-20T16:44:07.221-04:00I think of change as being associated with our age...I think of change as being associated with our age .oh I wouldn't give into the capris pants either.Tesshttp://www.wheretesslives.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-17164104390264237902015-03-20T10:12:10.192-04:002015-03-20T10:12:10.192-04:00So you have my brain swirling this morning. :) Goo...So you have my brain swirling this morning. :) Good swirls. I'm a work in progress, so I feel like I'm always evolving, old definitions no longer fit, but some do. <br /><br />And once upon a time I was anti-capri, I'm short as you know. :) I would be a liar if I didn't admit to owning a pair.<br />XOXO Mrs.AOKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02002718500697351424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-40478016247111810052015-03-19T16:44:15.117-04:002015-03-19T16:44:15.117-04:00Even when it's simply capri pants, or more wha...Even when it's simply capri pants, or more what the change symbolizes, I have been there. I have been the one to go against the definition and I've been the one to feel a bit left behind when someone else did.<br />I used to think about what defines me a lot more than I do now. Now it's all murky but I kinda love it.Tamara Camerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06004696358354444561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-74630378453832217012015-03-19T06:04:07.554-04:002015-03-19T06:04:07.554-04:00Oh tracie!!!! I totally get this. It's so hard...Oh tracie!!!! I totally get this. It's so hard. So hard. I'm not 100% sure what the change is you're fighting. It's only what I can infer about what I know of you and this space. I do know this and for me I had to embrace who the new me was. I always knew what the change was that had to be done. I was the one not accepting it. Take your time. Talk to friends. You'll find your time and your way. Then suddenly you will wonder why you never did it earlier. Sometimes we just need our time. But I do know this. It's ok to be whoever you want to be and its ok if that changes and grows over time. You don't have to stay stuck! XOXXOXOCarrie Baughcumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032878576475580976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-26128004027191565002015-03-19T03:57:41.807-04:002015-03-19T03:57:41.807-04:00I think change in how we define ourselves is inevi...I think change in how we define ourselves is inevitable as we grow older, I certainly am not the same girl I was in high school (thank God), or the same mom I was when I had that first baby at 21. I do what I can to enjoy and embrace the redefining moments. KChttp://moralmorsels.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-48594615400331696282015-03-18T23:31:36.861-04:002015-03-18T23:31:36.861-04:00I love this! The manner you wrote it in is grabbin...I love this! The manner you wrote it in is grabbing! I was sucked in with the first few sentences. I love the humor and the truth. We do define ourselves, don't we? Very powerful and insightful, I'll be thinking on this for a few days (at least).Beautifully Broken & Gracefully Redeemedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14510928544768285001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-77696080017299924792015-03-18T15:58:29.339-04:002015-03-18T15:58:29.339-04:00I love this so so much, Tracie! So insightful... ...I love this so so much, Tracie! So insightful... vulnerable, profound. It takes a lot of strength and incredible intention to strip some of the definitive layers off of us... that no longer apply. This is such a powerful piece. Thank you for sharing this precious thought process with us all...Chris Carterhttp://themomcafe.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-70565163085833780072015-03-18T10:48:22.203-04:002015-03-18T10:48:22.203-04:00Wow, I really enjoyed reading you work through thi...Wow, I really enjoyed reading you work through this. I can relate even though perhaps I am in a slightly different stage of life. I think, on some level, we keep going through this to different degrees. The best part for me when I struggle is asking Jesus: "Who do you say I am? Because that's who I want to be and know that I am." He always answers me somehow…through a note a friend sends me, a sweet encouragement, and unexpected blessing or reflection. I find it helps me shake off the negative labels people have given me…or even the ones that no longer fit (even if they are positive). It's great for us all to self-reflect like this. Blessings to you! Thanks for going deep with us.Bonnie Lyn Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11655473615644514577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-42474291534547932272015-03-17T22:29:20.794-04:002015-03-17T22:29:20.794-04:00I haven't thought of that last defining episod...I haven't thought of that last defining episode of The Wonder Years in quite a long time, but still definitely does make me sit up and think, too. I think as I am getting older myself, I am getting more stuck in my own ways at times, too. I definitely used to be more flexible and yet now not nearly as much. Not sure what the answer might be, but still got me ponder this more now without a doubt.Janine Huldiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00226958154244023407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-55260638115525229442015-03-17T22:27:55.870-04:002015-03-17T22:27:55.870-04:00As we grow we change and many of us can look back ...As we grow we change and many of us can look back and think these things don't fit me anymore Jo-Anne's Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11418152399382818709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-87757206441854378912015-03-17T17:12:52.405-04:002015-03-17T17:12:52.405-04:00I think as we age we find that our definitions of ...I think as we age we find that our definitions of ourselves have to change with the point of life we're currently experiencing. It's not easy to just let yourself "be free" and accept the changes in your opinions and beliefs you've held onto for so long. I know I'm in the same situation on some issues too. <br />Crystal Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08567081175006119598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-35892042561222629942015-03-17T09:54:46.356-04:002015-03-17T09:54:46.356-04:00This pulled me in, Tracie. It's funny I feel l...This pulled me in, Tracie. It's funny I feel like I'm going through a sifting a sorts too. I guess we just have to let go of those definitions, but it's hard. I think it takes facing some fears to find what's hidden and also allow the new definitions to take shape in our lives. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com