tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post8657451347388469014..comments2023-11-01T03:48:37.261-04:00Comments on From Tracie: How Do You Tell Your Kid You Are A Survivor Of Child Sexual Abuse?Tracie Nallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07908908021649000930noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-15946673893479992992015-04-22T18:27:19.609-04:002015-04-22T18:27:19.609-04:00Tracie,
We have been following each other for a lo...Tracie,<br />We have been following each other for a long time and I am so proud of you! You have been an unyielding advocate and a beautiful engaged mother to your daughter. I can't imagine a better conversation. You inspire me.<br />TraciStarTracihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02119043204191845721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-28146847971892348052014-08-17T02:09:08.540-04:002014-08-17T02:09:08.540-04:00I told my daughter just the other day. I was talk...I told my daughter just the other day. I was talking to someone at the local SARS office and I waved her away-- and I wanted to let her know why. She took it well in stride, but then, my wife's also a survivor and she did fantastically well telling her about that. It was part of the talk, part and parcel, really. jaklumenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03345447676400281082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-24788979419760900142014-04-27T08:47:01.762-04:002014-04-27T08:47:01.762-04:00Oh Tracie, You are an amazingly brave woman and mo...Oh Tracie, You are an amazingly brave woman and mother. How scary to have this talk, but what a time of healing (I would think?) too. It's just beautiful that your daughter can see how you've used something bad for good. Not just good for you, but good for others. You are beautiful! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-64626693372580529812014-04-26T17:27:55.918-04:002014-04-26T17:27:55.918-04:00Thank you for sharing. When a loved one told me ab...Thank you for sharing. When a loved one told me about the sexual abuse they had gone through, it was a much different story. I was very upset as an adult (which is when I was told) and the survivor kept making excuses for the abuser. The survivor wanted me to think about the abuser in good terms. I am thankful the abuser died before I was born, before my sisters were born. Sadly, I think the survivor would not have thought the abuser would have abused us as well. I am still angry that the survivor wants me to only think about the abuser with love and caring. Thank you for not excusing your abusers behavior.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-78056769965106295272014-03-28T09:58:40.667-04:002014-03-28T09:58:40.667-04:00You did this perfectly and I'm just completely...You did this perfectly and I'm just completely full of happy for how wonderfully your daughter interacts with you about using proper body names, talking openly, and being proud of you for helping others. Powerful stuff Tracie. Thanks so much for sharing it. Kristi Campbellhttp://www.findingninee.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-1722392791230936452014-03-22T17:59:07.944-04:002014-03-22T17:59:07.944-04:00Wow...thank you for sharing such a powerful experi...Wow...thank you for sharing such a powerful experience....Christine Boulwarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16082200871734406500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-75118705903653520122014-03-20T23:01:43.997-04:002014-03-20T23:01:43.997-04:00Tracie, I am finally reading this and I am so glad...Tracie, I am finally reading this and I am so glad that you have had this talk. You both are so amazing and this is so powerful. Your words truly do so much for so many. You are an advocate and your daughter sees that and learns from you and you have one amazing little girl right there. Love you, my friend. So much love.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06972798018825603047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-20874720335243329022014-03-20T22:52:15.567-04:002014-03-20T22:52:15.567-04:00wow. you are a wonderfully courageous woman. more ...wow. you are a wonderfully courageous woman. more power to you and your daughter. thanks for sharing. #sitsgirlsRobin Avidorhttp://www.rockinrobin.me/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-70148355236158178132014-03-20T17:08:55.707-04:002014-03-20T17:08:55.707-04:00It is a brave thing to talk about being a survivor...It is a brave thing to talk about being a survivor of child abuse in any way. Not letting it define who you are is hard, not letting it define who your children become makes you Mom of the Year. Good Job!The Things In My Headhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05111566247831011688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-16553684962691499422014-03-20T16:52:02.897-04:002014-03-20T16:52:02.897-04:00Wow. Tracie. What a difficult but important conver...Wow. Tracie. What a difficult but important conversation to have with your daughter; you must be so proud of how she responded to you with concern, empathy, and love.Dana @ Kiss my Listhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12909181714814693849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-55006660045690856362014-03-17T20:13:18.465-04:002014-03-17T20:13:18.465-04:00It sounds like you handled a delicate subject with...It sounds like you handled a delicate subject with tender truth. Your daughter reacted with such compassion for one so young. You both are doing something very right.Tara R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02993625193184914299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-63308859811482605902014-03-16T22:58:09.045-04:002014-03-16T22:58:09.045-04:00Tracie - well done - you are such a beautiful pers...Tracie - well done - you are such a beautiful person - your story unfortunately is far too common -- keep the good work. Your daughter is special and she has a vry special Mum.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-28786685735818500812014-03-15T22:30:53.715-04:002014-03-15T22:30:53.715-04:00This was beautiful, Traci. I hope I can be as tran...This was beautiful, Traci. I hope I can be as transparent with my future children. Keep fighting for the survivors! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05685691510452933142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-29168457891722938162014-03-14T14:52:52.093-04:002014-03-14T14:52:52.093-04:00You are now officially my hero! What an amazing mo...You are now officially my hero! What an amazing mother you are, and how blessed is your daughter to grow up in a household where things are called by their proper names!<br /><br />You really are helping others more than you know by the way in which you approach the heavy duty topic of sexual abuse, and then sharing it with others. <br /><br />Thank you, Tracie!Beautifuldreamerhttp://bdreamer.squarespace.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-65123186640805120822014-03-14T14:19:57.162-04:002014-03-14T14:19:57.162-04:00I honestly never thought about telling my kids my ...I honestly never thought about telling my kids my story. They are far too young now but maybe one day. I think I'll know if and when it's right when the time comes. Twingle Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12907505775593685411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-66338398891273634572014-03-14T11:29:51.056-04:002014-03-14T11:29:51.056-04:00I can't even imagine telling my kids about it....I can't even imagine telling my kids about it. It seems like such a terrifying concept to me. I know why it's important, I know why you did and its brave and honorable and I completely applaud you. I just don't think I could do it. Granted, my kids are too young for any talk, but my son is getting there. Sigh. I should probably start preparing myself now. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02505214083121584883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-37745597147255300362014-03-13T21:46:18.221-04:002014-03-13T21:46:18.221-04:00Good job, Tracie. So much good in there. Good job, Tracie. So much good in there. Robin @ Farewell Strangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11100285691695840649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-58447230011454210892014-03-13T17:43:23.412-04:002014-03-13T17:43:23.412-04:00This is amazing. I have tears in my eyes. I'm ...This is amazing. I have tears in my eyes. I'm not sure what has brought it on, but I have recently been thinking about when/how/if I will tell my daughter about having an abortion when I was 16. She is only 13 now and hasn't started dating, so it's not like I feel something similar could become an issue for her. I wrote a paper about it in my senior year of high school and I have been thinking about sharing it on my blog. My bestie asked me if that was good idea because of my kids. It's a good point, but then again, they don't read ,my blog right now. I've already talked about having that experience in a blog post, though,so should it matter at this point if I blog about it further? IDK!Jennifer Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06543609958581052245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-83668933835292381782014-03-13T15:41:23.080-04:002014-03-13T15:41:23.080-04:00WOW, nice work!!! Telling my story to my son is ho...WOW, nice work!!! Telling my story to my son is honestly not something I had contemplated until I read your post. I mean, I don't talk about it much anyway, although I would never hide it if asked. I'm not sure when would be the right time - right now I think he is too sensitive for this type conversation (he gets REALLY upset even reading a book where anyone is mistreated). <br /><br />We have had talks before about the fact that it's not okay for other people to touch his body and he should always tell one of his parents if anything happens that makes him uncomfortable or if someone asks him to keep a secret. Your post did make me see that it's probably time to take the conversation a little deeper, though. Thank you for blogging about this topic! It's definitely helpful!Crystal T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11975436998152162353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-4449663640057114002014-03-13T14:49:45.010-04:002014-03-13T14:49:45.010-04:00Wow! Tracie - you did SO WELL. And what I love mos...Wow! Tracie - you did SO WELL. And what I love most is that in a way, Katerina didn't seem surprised, because she has SEEN the things that you do to support others, and the way you've channelled your awful experiences to bring about healing and protection for other kids. And to educate and enlighten.<br /><br />You're a star. A shiny great-big-HUGE one. And FAR braver than I've been today. Lizzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17480448062269641320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-16945195735472418092014-03-13T12:46:53.499-04:002014-03-13T12:46:53.499-04:00Tracie, I think you are one of the most amazing pe...Tracie, I think you are one of the most amazing people I have ever come across. Good for you for being open with your daughter. Honesty and trust are incredible building blocks in our relationships with our kids. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09544185213746159372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-22568253204316664622014-03-13T12:41:01.015-04:002014-03-13T12:41:01.015-04:00This is amazing to read. I've used the same ta...This is amazing to read. I've used the same tactic with my son but have yet to have "the talk". Somehow, keeping things brief and matter-of-fact help me navigate these discussions and I feel much stronger when talking to him. Thank you for writing this and sharing.Awesamsaucehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10907512737246587252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-69865541961527462042014-03-13T09:42:01.966-04:002014-03-13T09:42:01.966-04:00You can tell you have an amazing relationship with...You can tell you have an amazing relationship with your daughter, the way you were able to have this conversation. It had to be so hard, but so worthwhile. You inspire me. xo Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-3654883344950880882014-03-12T22:46:56.341-04:002014-03-12T22:46:56.341-04:00Great and poignant post. I told both of my daughte...Great and poignant post. I told both of my daughters about my situation quite some time ago. They needed to know. I have no regrets. The truth is the truth, and the truth eventually comes out anyway. I wanted them to hear about it lovingly from me first. And then we all could move forward. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17895792021585597321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12565507.post-79120484143834599262014-03-12T22:31:14.162-04:002014-03-12T22:31:14.162-04:00Speechless here.
I didn't know this conversati...Speechless here.<br />I didn't know this conversation hadn't happened. You daughter is strong and so is your bond.<br />Tamara Camerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06004696358354444561noreply@blogger.com