From Tracie: August 2014

Sunday, August 31, 2014

Blog Against Child Abuse August 2014 Edition

The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse is a monthly event. Its purpose is to raise awareness about the serious issue of child abuse. All forms of abuse (physical, emotional, sexual, spiritual, and verbal) are discussed.

Blog Against Child Abuse - August 2014 Edition!

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The August 2014 Edition of the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse is up at Child Abuse Survivor Blog. Thank you to Mike for hosting this month, and for sparking discussion with the great theme of change. It felt really timely in my own life, because there are a lot of changes coming, and I'm working on meeting them without (too much) fear. There are a lot of great submissions this month, so be sure to check them out at Child Abuse Survivor Blog.

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The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse provides an opportunity to raise awareness about the serious issue of child abuse and to share important posts with others who might not be frequent readers of an author's blog. There are so many wonderful bloggers who are contributing to the cause of ending and recovering from child abuse.

If you, as a reader or author, know of other blogs that you find helpful, please encourage them to submit to an upcoming issue of the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse so we can continue to receive high quality submissions from a wide swath of bloggers.

Many thanks to all of you who shared your hearts and stories with us, and to all of you who read the submissions and show your support. You keep this carnival, the awareness, support, and healing going each month.

To provide another way for you to stay in contact with the blog carnival, and make sure you don't miss any updates; you can like the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse Facebook Page.

Thank you for raising your voice and speaking out against child abuse!

Monday, August 25, 2014

Dark Hope Book Review

I've been reading a lot of YA books the last couple of years. Partly because I was looking for new books for Katarina to read, but also because I enjoy them. I like to vary my reading and try new things. I'll give almost everything a chance, and I've found a lot of really great YA books.

Last week, I read Dark Hope by Monica McGurk. I have a lot of thoughts about this book. My biggest impression of Dark Hope was that it suffered from not knowing exactly what kind of book it wanted to be.

Dark Hope Book Cover

Dark Hope begins with a really mysterious and interesting story, but by chapter four, I started to sense Twilight lurking in the dark corners of the story. From interviews and other reading about the author, I learned that she got her start in fiction by writing Twilight fanfic. It showed, and the feeling of Twilight was heavy throughout the rest of Dark Hope in the relationship between Hope and Michael. I don't want to mislead you. It isn't a Twilight copy, we don't have a love triangle in this first book, and she is definitely giving us an original story. But even without knowing about McGurk's Twilight past, I could feel it.

I have more to say about that, but first, let me tell you about the storyline I loved in Dark Hope. At the beginning of the story we meet a very young Hope in a hotel room where she has been found by police after being abducted. We fast forward to teenage Hope who has decided to leave her super religious father to move back to Atlanta and live with her mother. She makes a friend named Tabitha, and they start to work on a project for school about human trafficking. Hope and Tabitha go to a shelter and meet a trafficking victim, Maria, with whom Hope forms a strong connection. This relationship with Maria is a real driving force for some of the important decisions Hope makes throughout the book. The human trafficking story is where this book shines.

As you probably guessed by the name of the series, there are angels. I was not a fan of the angels as portrayed by McGurk. I didn't expect a strictly Biblical view of angles, but I was disappointed by how far away the story strayed. There was a lot of fighting amongst the angels and supposedly they are very caught up in a bureaucracy-filled court system. I think this was supposed to make them feel more human and accessible, but it fell flat for me. I also didn't like one of the angels directing Hope to lie about his presence. But the biggest issues I had with the angels was the romantic relationship that develops between Hope and the archangel Michael.

I am not okay with the relationship between this angel, who is many thousands of years old, and a teenager. No matter how carefully McGurk tried to portray Michael as being only a teen himself in body chemistry and feelings when he takes on the form of a human teen, he is still a vastly older being, and the manipulation and control he exerts over Hope would be concerning in any relationship.

We are told that Michael is out of God's will by being with Hope instead of doing other tasks, so he is in pain every second of the day. This pain is a punishment that should drive him back to his angelic duties. This pain is also the excuse given when he gets angry at Hope. Now, I am not saying that he physically abuses her (although she is physically hurt very badly by a decision he makes), but I am saying that it made me a little sick to read her explanations for the anger he directs towards her as being due to the pain he is in, because he is choosing to protect Hope instead of doing his angel job. Then, in this same conversation, she is instructed by another character to be careful not to anger Michael. It felt too much like the beginning of an "it's my fault he hurts me" victim narrative for my comfort.

I can not say enough how inappropriate this relationship is, and it feels even more inappropriate in a book that also seeks to speak out against sex trafficking.

I think there are some interesting pieces in Dark Hope. If the author had omitted the romantic relationship between Hope and Michael, instead making them friends and partners in dealing with the human trafficking storyline (and even including the mysterious prophecy aspect that is going to be more fully unveiled later in the trilogy), it would have been a very interesting read, and I think the book would have deserved a much higher rating.

I feel like McGurk is truly passionate about the issue of human trafficking. She has given a percentage of proceeds from her book to help fight trafficking, and is on the advisory board of an anti-trafficking organization. I love that she set some of the story in Atlanta, which is one of the largest hubs for human trafficking in America. There was obviously real research and knowledge behind some of her story decisions.

Here's the thing about human trafficking: this is a cause that is also very close to my heart, because of the work I do with survivors of sexual abuse and rape, as well as having personal friends who are survivors of sex trafficking. I'm going to be a harsher judge when someone portrays trafficking in a book or movie. It was hard for me to fully connect with the trafficking story, because even as Michael is helping Hope to find Maria, he is also at the center of this very unhealthy relationship that makes it hard for me to view him as a good guy.

Monica McGurk has promise as a writer; I don't want to dismiss her or her book. There were strong moments in Dark Hope that had the potential to be something special. But McGurk is going to have to break out from under Stephanie Meyer's shadow to realize her full potential. I know she is already committed to finishing out this series as a trilogy, but once it is complete, I hope she will try something new. That is a book I really would like to read.

You can find Monica on twitter, facebook, and pinterest, where she shares a lot of great background details on her writing (I love it when authors do that), and information related to fighting trafficking and promoting women.

I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls Collective and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

I Forgot How To Pray

Exciting Grandma Update 8-22: The surgeon came in last night and said she does NOT need surgery. This is a HUGE answer to prayer, and means she can work on gaining strength and moving from the ICU into a regular room. Earlier this week we were facing the task of making plans with Hospice, and now the situation has completely changed. Praise the Lord. Thank you for all your prayers and support these last weeks. I know it made a difference.

She was able to have some broth last night. Today they are going to let her have a few bites of ice cream. It is clear by the level of excitement the ice cream announcement caused that I come from my mother's side of the family!

Thank you so much for all the supportive comments, messages, and emails I've been getting over the last few days. It has made such a difference for me, and really reminded me how special this blogging community is, and how online friendships are real friendships. 

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Little snippets seem to be all I'm good for at this point.

I get a strong four sentences of prayer in, but I feel disconnected.

My mind races.

I laugh hysterically at things that aren't that funny. I cry deeply at things that aren't that sad. I'm more snappy and also more cuddly. I want to be held, but I don't want to be touched. I'm emotionally eating everything, but it all tastes like copper and feels like lead in my stomach.

My emotions are less of roller coaster, and more of a runaway train - going faster, faster, faster, no stopping in sight.

I get a focused three sentences of prayer in, but then my mind is filled with bits of songs that won't shut off and anxieties that won't quit.

I wonder if I'm like her, my grandma. I wonder if I'm like anyone in my family.

I feel like I know them, and yet, I feel like they are all strangers who are very far away. I am obsessed with family these days. Angry and sad and lonely and hurt.

I get a semi-focused two sentences of prayer in while I write a message, updating and asking someone else to pray.

I want to scream at the doctors, "We will be there tomorrow, don't do anything yet!" and "We will be there tomorrow, why haven't you done anything?"

What are we walking into? And, maybe worse, what will we walk away from next week? Six days isn't enough time. But it may be too much time.

What is time? Why am I wasting it asking these stupid questions?

I get one word in. "Please." Maybe it is enough. It doesn't feel like it is.

I don't know how to be a mother and to grieve. I'm not so good at this.

And maybe grieving won't be called for. Maybe we will rejoice. Maybe I can shut down the part of my brain that is running scenarios and thinking about all the years I've missed.

I ask for healing. I ask for strength - for her, for me, for all of us. I ask for help to stand in front of her, tear-less, and support any decision she makes. I ask where the line is, and how to know if I've crossed it. 

Maybe prayer is asking, and maybe it is crying, and maybe it is just a little bit writing this blog post. Because I don't know if I can remember how to do it anymore. I just know that God is good. And Jesus intercedes. And I believe that far away in a hospital room I won't reach until tomorrow, the Holy Spirit sits and holds my Grandma in His arms. Because everything else is too hard, and I've run out of any other answers.

Maybe, that is exactly how it is supposed to be. And if it isn't, maybe there is grace.

Sunday, August 17, 2014

Today I'm Thankful

My grandma is back in the hospital. This time in the ICU. She is dealing with the same breathing/lung and heart issues as before with some serious added complications. There has been talk of surgery and other options, none of which look really great. Katarina and I are flying out there to see her on Thursday. I've been so blessed by the prayers and love that have sustained me as I count down the days until we can get there to see her, and I'm thankful for the amazing people who make up my world.

Lizzi mentioned in her Ten Things Of Thankful post that this week we really need thankfuls. She is so very right. So I'm going to dig deep, and share some of the things for which I am thankful today.

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I shared this on facebook yesterday:
"Taking a personality test. One of the questions is, "You find it difficult to speak loudly - yes or no?" ....and then we all laughed and laughed. 
But I laughed the loudest. Because, obviously."

I'm thankful for that laughter, because laughs have been few and far between this week. But I'm also thankful for one of the responses (which brought back a special memory and also made me laugh):
"Remember when we had a slumber party at my house and we were so loud that my parents set up the camper?! Hahaha"
And in case you are wondering, like Thomas was, if this is a true story? It is. It SO is. I could tell you that our awesomeness was too much to contain in a small bedroom. But, honestly, we were just really, really loud, and I, the loudest of all.

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Thomas stopped at a garage sale while he was at work yesterday, and came home with a Harry Potter shirt. It is actually a Quidditch shirt for the Gryffindor seeker. I'm thankful for a husband who notices little things that will make me happy, and brings them to me.

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I'm thankful for my job with SITS and Sway, where I work with amazing people, and actually look forward to starting work every morning.

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Blue Sky Hope

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On Friday, my friend Sheena shared some great tweets, including some gratefulness statements that really grabbed my heart. Here is one of my favorites:
I'm thankful for wisdom. I'm thankful for the ability to do better. I'm thankful for Sheena reminding me of both of these things on a day I really needed to remember them.

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I'm thankful Enter The Worship Circle is on Spotify.

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I'm thankful Lizzi tags me on twitter each week with a reminder to share my thankful moments. Because I need it. Especially on weeks like this, when it is easy to be wrapped up in fear, anxiety, frustration, hard feelings, and something far too close to grief. All those feelings are real, and many of them are valid, but the thankfuls are real, too.

Right now, for at least as long as it took me to type these, I'm going to focus on the thankful things. My heart needs it. If you have had a hard week, I'm pretty sure your heart might need it, too.

Ten Things of Thankful

What are you thankful for today?

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Cut The Strings - Change Is Coming

As change happens, strings are cut.

Some of them are as small as dental floss.

Some as thick and large as the ropes that hold the sails of a ship in place.

One by one.

Snip.

Snip.

Snip.

Each change is a cut string.

And you feel yourself move, because those were your strings.

Some of them were cut at your own hands, but most of them are cut when you least expected it, by forces seen and unseen. You try to ignore each snip beyond your control, and do this life thing.

But the tether is gone.

You are lifted off the ground.

Flying off to freedom. Like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon, or a bird finally leaving the nest, or Iron Man putting on a new suit. Purposeful. Making decisions. Reaching goals.

blue balloon floating towards the sun

The tether is gone, and you are lifted off the ground.

Floating away uncontrollably. Like a half-inflated balloon, aiming towards heaven, but getting tangled in the power lines. Like a leaf that thinks it will fly, but finds this short flight is really only a fall. Like a plastic bag on the highway. Floating. Almost flying. Getting hit by car after car. Tearing apart. Never quite able to make it to the other side of the road.

The fear firmly in place, you try to tie those ropes and strings back together.

Frantic.

Fingers slipping.

Is a chance at flying enough to risk a fall?

Is there even a choice?

Those strings have been cut.

They will never be strong again, tethering you to what you know.

Change is here.

fallen yellow leaf with shadows and light

Brace yourself for the flight.

Or the fall.

Sunday, August 10, 2014

Now Accepting Submissions For The August 2014 Blog Against Child Abuse

The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse is a monthly event. Its purpose is to raise awareness about the serious issue of child abuse. All forms of abuse (physical, emotional, sexual, spiritual, and verbal) are discussed.

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The August edition of the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse will be hosted at Child Abuse Survivor.

Blog Carnival Theme: Change
I am very excited about the topic, and I can hardly wait to read about your experiences and thoughts on change. You can find out more about the theme in Mike's announcement post.

All of our regular categories will also be open:
-Advocacy and Awareness
-Aftermath
-Healing and Therapy
-In the News
-Poetry
-Survivor Stories
-Art Therapy

The deadline for submissions is August 27th, and the carnival will be posted on the 29th. I'm excited to see what y'all share this month. You can submit something written especially for this edition, but please feel free to submit an older post as well.

To submit a blog post, please fill out this form.


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The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse provides an opportunity to raise awareness about the serious issue of child abuse and to share important posts with others who might not be frequent readers of an author's blog. There are so many wonderful bloggers who are contributing to the cause of ending and recovering from child abuse.

If you, as a reader or author, know of other blogs that you find helpful, please encourage them to submit to an upcoming issue of the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse so we can continue to receive high quality submissions from a wide swath of bloggers.

Many thanks to all of you who shared your hearts and stories with us, and to all of you who read the submissions and show your support. You keep this carnival, the awareness, support, and healing going each month.

To provide another way for you to stay in contact with the blog carnival, and make sure you don't miss any updates; you can like the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse Facebook Page.

Thank you for raising your voice and speaking out against child abuse!

Friday, August 08, 2014

The Best Wake Up Call Ever

One thing that can be frustrating about living in a hotel is the constant flow of different neighbors. Some neighbors come and go, and we don't even notice them. But sometimes, the people in adjacent rooms are loud. They turn the tv all the way up, they blare music, they yell, or they make noises that I can only assume are the result of spontaneous 2am clog dancing practices.

Noisy neighbors drive Thomas crazy. Sometimes he will call the office, and say something if the noise gets ridiculous, but they are busy, and that is a lot of trouble. His new thing is to call the noisy neighbor himself, and ask them to please turn down their music/tv/yelling/clog dancing. But sometimes when he makes those calls, he slips out an Indian accent that sounds just like the manager. So he doesn't say, "This is the office calling." He just doesn't say who he is at all, and then he asks them to be quiet.

Over the weekend, Thomas called the people behind us, accent fully in place, to ask them to turn down their music. The man who answer said, "Oh, gosh, I'm sorry. I didn't realize it was so loud. I'll definitely turn it down. And, hey, since I have you here on the phone, I need you to give me a wake up call at 9pm. Thanks!"

Thomas hung up the phone, looked at me, and said, "I have to make a wake up call at 9pm."

"What? Why?"

"The guy clearly thought I was calling from the office. And as I couldn't exactly say I wasn't the office, I didn't argue. But I also don't want him to miss work, or be late for something tonight because the phone never rings, or for him to yell at the girl in the office tonight because no one called. You know, because they didn't know he needed a call."

At this point I laughed. Really hard. And Katarina laughed with me.

We spent the next few hours teasing him about his wake up call...

"Do you want to try a new accent? You could be Australian!"

"Will you sing? Everyone loves a nice wake up song."

"Maybe you should tell him a joke? Start his night out with a laugh."

"Seriously, now, what exactly are you going to say? Do we need to do a practice run? I'll pretend to sleep, and you can call me on the cell phone to wake me up."

For some reason, Thomas didn't seem to enjoy this quite as much as we did.

We enjoyed it a lot.
And I might have even messaged Lizzi to let her in on the fun.

But Thomas was a little stressed by his new wake up call job. He set two alarms so he wouldn't be late. And in between the helpful questions and suggestions Katarina and I were sharing, he kept saying, "You just don't understand. I have to make a wake up call tonight."

Nine o'clock finally arrived, and the alarms rang out the deadline. "What are you going to say?" I asked.

"I don't know, but I have to call him now!"

He picked up the phone, dialed, took a deep breath, and quietly said, "It is nine o'clock."

The neighbor responded, "Thanks!" and Thomas hung up really fast, before he could be asked for any more calls. He achieved wake up call success.

The most important part of the story is this: Thomas said this experience has cured him from ever calling a neighbor in a vaguely Indian accent again. He will always just be very much himself.

But if YOU ever need a wake up call, I'm sure he would be happy to try out any accent you want. After all, he is a wake up call master now.

Thursday, August 07, 2014

Help Champions For Kids Feed Children In Your Community With SIMPLE Giving

When The Motherhood approached me to write about SIMPLE Giving, I was excited to be involved, because I know what a difference programs like this can make. I used to be an administrative assistant at a church. It was an interesting job, and I got to do a lot of different fun things, but one of the truly important tasks I had was to help with the food pantry.

Due to the fact we lived on the church property, I was often there when people called or stopped by during off hours looking for help. I stood with many mothers, and heard pieces of their stories as I packed boxes of food. I saw the relief on their faces when they knew there would be food in their houses that week. I saw their kids smile when snack food was slid in the box next to big containers of old fashioned oatmeal.

I felt that relief and gratefulness in my own heart when a friend brought boxes of food to my family, because she knew we were having a hard time. And I've eaten meals that were possible because of the blessing of a food pantry.

Poverty and hunger are real things. They are happening in our country, and in our local communities. But we have the power to help. And our help is sorely needed. In my local community, I know there are food pantries and donation centers that have struggled to keep up the balance of food donations and food needs.

This is where Champions For Kids comes in with their SIMPLE Giving program. August 1-18th, there will be purple donation boxes set up in Wal-Marts across the country to collect nutritious food for the children in your community. In fact, the food that is collected will be given to children in the school district where the Wal-Mart is located.

Champions For Kids Logo

It makes a difference for children to have nutritional food and snacks. To ensure children have access to nutritious snacks, Champions for Kids is teaming up with Dole, Emerald, and Kellogg's Company. You will find some of their nutritious snack and breakfast products near the donation bins, but you are also welcome to donate any kid-friendly items you want to give.

Donate Food To SIMPLE Giving

I love the core values that drive Champions For Kids programs.

They believe all children should have:
Someone who cares
A place to belong
Hope for tomorrow and provisions for their journey.
All children.

That is a list I am proud to support. And principles I want to teach my daughter. She helped us find food that would be great for donating the last time we were at Wal-Mart. Take your kids to the store with you. Let them pick out the food to donate, and use that trip as a conversation starter. You might be surprised at the great ideas your kids can come up with to help families in need.

SIMPLE Giving Infographic

For a list of participating Wal-Marts, visit the SIMPLE Giving website, and while you are there, check out some of their other programs and projects. You will find some great ideas for getting your kids involved in serving your community on the SIMPLE Service page.

*I participated in this program on behalf of Champions for Kids and The Motherhood. All opinions and stories are my own.

Tuesday, August 05, 2014

Birthday Weekend (When Celebrating For One Day Just Isn't Enough)

Katarina turned 11 years old on Saturday. Kids are growing too fast these days. I was talking with some other moms about this on Twitter this week, and we have decided to try putting books on their heads and giving them coffee to see if that helps to slow them down. I'll let you know how that goes. But for now, we are celebrating growth and aging. We celebrated all weekend, and I have pictures to prove it.

Thursday: Birthday Party at Airheads Trampoline Arena
Birthday Party At Airheads Trampoline Arena

We spend a lot of time at Airheads. First, because jumping is awesome, and it is always better with air conditioning. Second, because the food is amazing (I have dreams about their nachos and buffalo chicken). And Third, because they have regular homeschool meetups that double as PE classes. So Airheads was a great place to gather some friends and party. And Lee brought delicious homemade cupcakes that were amazing.

Thursday Night: Nail Art
Katarina loves nail art, so this Academy of Colour 3D Manicure pack was a perfect gift. She wanted to try it immediately after getting home from the party. This is how it works: you put a coat of nailpolish on your nail, and while it is still wet, you sprinkle the glow in the dark beads over it and lightly press them into the polish. It comes with a little tray to catch the excess beads, and a funnel to get them back into the bottle.

Glow In The Dark 3D Manicure

There is no way to get a good picture of the glowing nails (we tried), but I will tell you that they glow really brightly in the dark. And they look textured and cool in the light, too.

Friday: Shopping And Bus Riding
We started Friday by sleeping in, which was one of Katarina's specific birthday wishes. Then it was time for a little shopping, and finding food to donate for Champions For Kids.

Serious Waiting Selfie

We took silly selfies while we waited for the bus. I like this one, because you can see the yellow sun rail train behind us, and because Katarina is making her "serious waiting face."

Friday Night: Guardians Of The Galaxy
We are all about the comic book movies in our family, so Katarina was very excited Guardians Of The Galaxy was opening the day before her birthday. It was awesome. And then we hung out with our new super hero friends after the movie.

Guardians Of The Galaxy, Katarina, and Tracie

Does that picture make us look short?
I guess we should just be happy we are taller than Rocket Raccoon.

Also seen while we were at the movie theater?
The Giver Movie Poster
This poster for The Giver. SO exciting. Katarina read The Giver for the first time earlier this year, and loved it, so she is counting down the days until the movie premiers.

Saturday Morning: Haircut And A New Color
PINK Hair

PINK. Need I say more? I didn't think so.

Tika gave her a combination of Magenta and Wild Orchid for the color.

Saturday Afternoon: Changing Plans And Finding Fun
Our original plan was to visit the Orlando Science Center on Saturday, but bus schedules proved to be a problem, and we are going to have to make that trip another day.

Thomas and Katarina

Instead, we went downtown to eat at Katarina's favorite burger place, Beth's Burger Bar, where I attempted to eat my weight in fried pickles, and Katarina had her favorite - a cheeseburger with peanut butter and pickles.

Eating Fried Pickles - YUM!

This is the only picture containing a fried pickle or french fry, because we were too busy eating all of them to worry about pulling out the camera.

After lunch, we walked around Lake Eola, and caught some live music at the amphitheater.

Lake Eola Downtown Orlando

We were rained out of riding in a swan boat, but that didn't stop our fun.

We just skipped on, and visited the library, making sure to jump in all the puddles on our way.

Holding Hands And Skipping

Skipping. It is a must on birthday weekend. Because even at 11 years old (or 40-ish years old) you can still hold hands, and skip to the library.

Katarina Nall Is Eleven

At the library, Katarina was excited to finally be allowed in the YA section by herself now that she is 11. It was a milestone.

Sunday was for more sleeping in, opening presents and a HUGE card at the park, and reading new books. And then birthday weekend came to a close. It was a pretty epic celebration.

Happy birthday, Katarina!
Katarina and Tracie Nall
I love you so much, and I'm looking forward to all the amazing things that will happen in your 11th year. It is going to be awesome. Love, Mom.

Monday, August 04, 2014

Celebrating With Hallmark Poster Cards For Kids

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I love it when I go to the mailbox, and find a card waiting for me - birthday cards, thinking of you cards, good luck cards, "I love you" cards, funny cards, or any other kind of card. It makes for a great day. Even better is being able to send a card that is perfect to someone I love. So even though Katarina is my daughter, and lives with me every day, I still get her cards. Sometimes just for fun, and always when it is her birthday. They don't arrive in the mailbox, but she still loves them. And she gives me cards, too. It is our thing.

Saturday was Katarina's birthday. 11 years old.

A couple of weeks ago I asked her if she had a birthday list. "Nope," she responded, "It would be awesome to go see Guardians Of The Galaxy on opening night, since it comes out the day before my birthday. Or we could just do something fun on my birthday. I also like sleeping in."

"What about presents? Is there anything special you want?" I asked. I have to ask this, because this kid seriously never asks for anything. It makes it hard to shop for her.

"Books."

I can't say I was surprised by her answer. I'm pretty sure I asked for books when I turned 11 (and every other birthday), too. So, with that in mind, I went shopping for books and the perfect birthday card.

Hallmark Card Aisle Wal-Mart

The card section has come a long way since I was a kid. There were three aisles of cards at the Wal-Mart I visited, with a whole aisle dedicated to kids cards. Not just plain kids cards, either, neat cards with fancy extras. I almost picked up this Avengers card. It folds out into a glow in the dark poster, which is awesome, and I know Katarina would have loved it.

Hallmark Avengers Card With Glow In Dark Poster

But then I saw something even more perfect:
A Divergent card that turns into a jumbo poster.

Divergent Poster Card Hallmark

Be brave. Be bold. Be who you are.

It fit with the bookish theme of Katarina's birthday, and also had a great message. As she gets older, that is exactly what I want for Katarina - braveness, boldness, and the courage to be exactly who she is.

Even with a heavy course load for school last year, she found the time to read more than 112 books. That is amazing to me, and something worth celebrating. I want to always enable and encourage reading, especially books with strong, female characters at the center of the story.

I loved this card, and I could hardly wait to give it to Katarina. I had the camera ready when she opened it, because it isn't every day you get to see someone open a card this big. Plus it probably won't be very many years before she refuses to wear Happy Birthday hats at the park.

Opening Poster Card Collage

As you can see, it was impressive. We weren't prepared for how BIG it would be once it was completely unfolded. Being a lover of details, Katarina noticed the faction symbols on the back of the poster right away.

Factions Inside Divergent Card

We hung it up on the door this morning, and it fits perfectly. I'll just be over here polishing my 'Cool Mom Award' while you look at it.

Divergent Poster

If you want to be a cool mom, too, you can find kid's poster cards at Wal-Mart. If you sign up for the Hallmark Rewards Program before you go shopping, you will earn rewards for every Hallmark card you purchase. For every 5 cards you buy, you will earn a reward of your choice. It is easy and free to sign up, and a great excuse to send cards to everyone you love.

Hallmark Poster Cards For Kids Are Amazing

Make sure you check out Connections from Hallmark to sign up for Hallmark Rewards, and to see great content from other bloggers. You can also join in the #kidscards conversation on Twitter.

*I was compensated for my time. All opinions and love of greeting cards is my own. I was not required to say nice things, or to scare people on the greeting card aisle by jumping up and down when I found the perfect card.

Friday, August 01, 2014

Five Books I Loved (And Other Bookish Thoughts)

Last night I read a book. It was good, and I kind of want to talk about it, but there is no way to say what I think without spoiling the whole story.

This is the problem with book reviews. I want to tell you all the things, but I don't want to ruin anything for you. I have a list of recently read books that I planned to review here, but I have yet to figure out what I want to say without revealing major plot points. So, proceed with caution. There may be (very small) spoilers ahead, and I probably won't limit myself to only sharing five books.

The Ocean at the End of the Lane by Neil Gaiman

The Ocean At The End Of The Lane Cover Art
I read this in June. You want to know a secret? It was my first Gaiman book. Is that surprising? I feel like I have to turn in my reading-geek card, or maybe leave the internet forever now that I have admitted to never having read Gaiman before now, other than his tweets. Or maybe I am safe since I did read it, and now I can stay?

I really loved this book. I want to tell you it was magical in unexpected ways, but I think I was supposed to expect the magic. What I didn't expect was how much I wanted to know more about Lettie Hempstock and her mother and grandmother. There are all these excruciatingly delicious unanswered questions about them that need to be answered, or at least, revealed in more stories. The writing was the true stand-out in The Ocean at the End of the Lane. And the food descriptions. Plan on this book making you feel really, really hungry when you read it. Even more so than when you read all those banquet and meal descriptions in the Harry Potter series.


Orphan Train by Christina Baker Kline

Orphan Train Book Cover Art
This was a great book. It wraps up with a neatly tied bow at the end. Probably too neat a bow, but I forgive Kline for her perfect ending. In Orphan Train, two very different, yet very much the same, stories intersect in the meeting of 91-year old Vivian and 18-year old Molly.

The most interesting thing about this book was the historical aspect. I feel like I knew about the existence of the orphan trains. They appeared briefly in stories I read when I was a child, I'm sure. But I didn't know about the scope of the orphan train situation, that between 1853 and 1929, the orphan trains relocated approximately 250,000 children. These children were sent west, presumably to find new families. This book sent me down a historical research path that I quite enjoyed.

There is one more thing I found interesting about the juxtaposition of Vivian and Molly's stories. Vivian feels out of place, not only because of the death of her family, but also because she is an Irish immigrant. She is encouraged to let go of all her Irish heritage. Molly is basically an orphan, with the death of her father and her mother's abandonment and later incarceration, but she is also out of place because she is Native American. I really felt the absurd similarity of the Irish immigrant who does not belong because of her foreign heritage and the Native American who does not belong because of her heritage that is too much American.


The Passage by Justin Cronin

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Andrea recommended this book. I read it over two days (it's long), and really enjoyed it. The back cover and goodreads description don't really tell you what the book is about at all. I mean, it is accurate - government experiments, a little girl, a dystopian future, a lot of walking - but it doesn't say the one word that needs to be said.

I want to tell you what that word is, but I can't. Not so much because it would ruin the book, you figure out what the word is fairly quickly. No, I can't say it, because it would have held me back from reading the book, and I want you to give it a chance.

This is a book that should be made into a movie. It should also never be made into a movie, because it is 800 pages long, and they would probably cut out all the good parts of the book, leave the not so important parts, and embellish it in all the wrong ways, ultimately killing everything good about the story. Book two is already out, and there is a third one on the way. Yes, it is a trilogy - I wanted to keep that from you, just like the word I can't say, but I have to be honest. Please don't hold it's trilogy-ness against it.


Where'd You Go, Bernadette by Maria Semple

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I laughed. A lot. Out loud.

I laughed at lot, out loud; loudly enough to be heard over the music in Thomas' headphones, and once, loudly enough to wake him up.

Where'd You Go, Bernadette is absurd. It is wonderful. It is satirical genius. It is occasionally frustrating. It is full of the most wonderful emails ever mailed electronically. And then there is a mudslide. And a giant sign. And Antarctica.

I know this review makes very little sense. You just have to read it to see what I mean. And then you have to tweet me during the mudslide.


The Storied Life of A. J. Fikry by Gabrielle Zevin

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 This is the book I read last night. I think I am ready to tell you things about it, now, without spoiling everything. Here's the thing about The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry, the good parts are really good, and the not-so-good parts are annoying. There are too many characters who seem like exactly that - overly quirky book characters. I will mostly forgive this because I quite liked the main character, Fikry, and because I am sometimes a sucker for overly quirky characters (I think it is Gilmore Girl's fault, I just loved all those townies so much).

The parts about books are great. There are a few hundred literary references, which I enjoyed immensely. I didn't enjoy how some things were tied up too neatly with a bow (clearly I'm getting less forgiving of neat bows as I age). But no matter how many neat bows were contained in the pages, the thoughts on books and reading made up for all of them. Here's a quote I quite enjoyed (one of many):
"Why is any one book different from any other book? They are different, A.J. decides, because they are. We have to look inside many. We have to believe. We agree to be disappointed sometimes so that we can be exhilarated every now and again."
The bookish parts were the best parts, and make the book well worth reading.

Still Life with Bread Crumbs by Anna Quindlen

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I loved this book.
It was beautiful.
It was thought provoking.
It felt immediately like an old friend.

Sometimes that is the most important thing about a book.

I will definitely read it again.


Jasper Fforde
Jasper Fforde collection

One more thing I've been reading. Jasper Fforde. So much Jasper Fforde. Because, you can never have too much Jasper Fforde.

I picked back up on the Thursday Next series with the second book, Lost In A Good Book. It did not disappoint. As I waited for book three to come in at the library, I picked up the second Nursery Crime book, The Fourth Bear. It also didn't disappoint. And then I moved on to Thursday Next #3, The Well Of Lost Plots.

The order in which I read these books was accidental, but it was accidental perfection. The Well of Lost Plots has a tie-in to the Nursery Crime books that is best served by reading it after you have read them.

This is my recommended Fforde reading order:
  • The Eyre Affair (Thursday Next #1) 
  • The Big Over Easy (Nursery Crime, #1) 
  • Lost in a Good Book (Thursday Next, #2) 
  • The Fourth Bear (Nursery Crime, #2) 
  • The Well of Lost Plots (Thursday Next #3) 
  • ...all the other Fforde books, as fast as he can write them!
And, of course, you also need to read Shades of Grey. It was my first Fforde. It doesn't have the literary tie-in the Thursday Next and Nursery Crime books have, but it is special in its own way.

I gave all of these books, except The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry, five stars on goodreads. I always star my books over there, but don't often write reviews. That's what a blog is for, right? But I enjoy reading other people's reviews after I finish a book, and I often wonder how other people choose their star ratings. Do they have a system? I've seen a couple of people mention giving "points" for certain things, and the points determine the star rating. My star system is much less complex. If I love it, really love it, it is five stars. If I mostly loved it, it will probably get four stars. Liking most of a book, but not loving it, will earn three. Disliking most of a book will result in two. And one star is reserved for the books I hate.

What about you... How do you rate books? And what have you been reading lately that I need to immediately add to my reading list?