From Tracie: Outside My Safe Window

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Outside My Safe Window

There is a beautiful rainstorm happening outside my window, and when the cars and trucks speed by, they make huge waves that rise above the fence line.

I love those waves.

Not so much when I'm standing at the bus stop, and have to jump out of the way to avoid them.

But when I'm sitting comfortably at my computer, with a window between me and the cold rain, I enjoy every one.


The construction is still happening next door to me.

When the dump trucks are working, it is like huge claps of thunder, and the whole room shakes.

There is a building standing where only a month ago there was none.

Life moves forward.


I want to pretend that life is a simple as a set of Legos and a trip to the beach. But that is not the kind of construction and waves that come when you are an adult.

Everything that happens now has a greater permanence than you can imagine when you are seven years old.

It isn't easy to start over. And it isn't easy to jump out of the way when unexpected things come at you.


Life is a lot like street waves and construction.

Fast. Cold. Full of dirt. Loud. Uncertain. Strong and weak.

I might have spoken strong words about foundations and building new things when I first watched that construction through the safety of my window, but I am not ready to dig in the dirt to build anything.

I want to sit on the other side of a safe window, and appreciate the beauty of life, without risking the splash that comes with actually living in it.


I want everything to slow down and speed up. I know that doesn't make sense. But what I mean is, I want the fast things to be slow and the slow things to pass quickly.

And I want a lot of things that aren't realistic.

I am tired of loss.

And heartbreak.

And dirt.

And all the pain that comes from stepping out from behind my safe window.

And the fact that the phone rings, and the computer lets the world in, and people die, and my window doesn't even begin to protect me from the pain of the world outside.

Linking up with Shell at Things I Can't Say for Pour Your Heart Out


  1. If only life was like a trip to the beach. And maybe it is, but its the kind of trip where you get sand in your bathing suit and the tide takes away your chair!

    1. Exactly. And that isn't the beach trip that any of us want to have.

  2. Ack, this is SO good. So beautiful.
    I can feel and hear that cold rain on the other side of the window.

  3. I loved this so much.

    Thank you for letting us in. xo

  4. This is gorgeous! Your words weave such a wonderful word picture.

  5. I get the slowing down and speeding up thing. I do. xo

  6. I love this.
    It's so hard to accept that change is inevitable and totally out of our control.

  7. this was beautiful and I understood every single word. So much of our loss and heartbreak is a part of our ordinary days..and it never really goes away.
    Your last sentence brought hot, salty tears to my eyes.

    I understand. I love you and I understand.

  8. Sometimes I want to stay in my safe little bubble. Okay, a lot of the time I wish we could. I know what you mean about wanting time to slow down and speed up at the same time.

  9. I love it when we storms like we did this morning and I am safe inside my home and can just sit and watch the storm

  10. Very well written! I felt what you were describing.